A few months back, I remember listening to a very famous morning radio show and the one thing that stuck in my mind was the response to the topic.
The hosts were talking about domestic abuse and its, not in regards to women but men. Men were calling the station and some would admit that, Yes, my wife does beat the living daylights out of me.
Others would call outright and say, there was no way in hell their wives would dare lay a finger on them.
But there was this one phone call that chilled me to the bones.
This man calls and you can literally feel and hear the fear in the man’s voice.
This man was literally stammering, stuttering any word you could use to describe a shaky voice that was him.
This man starts describing the horror he goes through his wife’s hands and it was plain torture.
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Man: The woman I call my wife, beats me black and blue, she has isolated me from family, friends, work, I am her slave….
Radio host: Have you tried getting help…
Man: She is a well-connected lady, I can’t go to the police, I have zero access to my….(silence)oh my God here she comes…please help me…..
End of call.
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I was beyond shocked was scared for the man.
It’s at this point that phone calls started flooding the radio station. People, amazingly enough, wanted to save the man from the beast he called his wife.
Now there was a certain clique of men who called and bashed the guy stating that he wasn’t man enough, he wasn’t a real man…
So this brings me to my main question, who is a real man? What makes a man be enough?
Why does the society treat domestic abuse towards men as if the victims are responsible? Treating them as if the victims had a hand in it.
The sickening side is that the Boy-child himself does not help the situation.T hey believe that women are fragile creatures,
Sweetheart, some women are a combination of Bruce Lee, Yokozuna and the Devil.
Such a lady will beat you black and blue. And we have some guys who cannot for their life fight.
So Boy child, why don’t you face reality, domestic abuse is not gender-biased, anyone regardless of their sex can be abused by persons of the same sex or the opposite sex.
Men are out here suffering silently because the minute they dare say that my wife hits me, he will either be mocked, insulted and practically driven to insanity or worse suicide.
The entire world advocates for women’s rights forgetting about the boy-child and the Boy child also forgets or assumes that he cannot be abused.
Men can be abused and they are abused. It, unfortunately, is a silent cycle.
Boy child needs to understand they are not immune, we have a slogan that says “What a man can do a woman does it better”.In this case “A woman can also do it”
Gender abuse is real, it isn’t biased nor discriminates and as a society, as a community, we need to stop victimising the victims and find a solution once and for all.
Boy child domestic abuse towards you is very real.
